31 July 2009

Calling all angels

I've got some things to say.

They won't be in any particular order because I'm writing this at an hour which feels very early after staying awake very late. The sequential part of my brain's a bit scrambled. That leaves my all-things-at-once brain in charge.

So first then, I suppose because it was the last thing to happen, is the plum. Because I am a light sleeper and because my bedmate is an unquiet sleeper, every night I stuff orange and purple foamy bullets into my ears that block out sounds—sounds like logs being sawn, alarm clocks, midnight ice cream trucks, and yowling cats—so Rob necessarily and voluntarily functions as my bones-stirrer when it's time to get up, or as was the case last night, to dose me with meds. Last night it was ibuprofen every four hours for cramps. Routine stuff, just ask the moon.

My last pain killers were delivered past daybreak, along with two marble-sized orange tomatoes fresh from the garden, and a proudly-announced "first plum" from our own tree. I laughed myself awake at the thought of it; when we bought this house several years ago, we were told that the monster plum tree was purely decorative. You've never seen a plum tree so large—by this summer it was officially eating our house as well as the neighbors' shed—and you've also never seen plums so small—tiny, tight, but strangely tasty bird-fruits—useless purple knots only a beak could love. I take that back; my dog truffle-sniffed them in the backyard as often as he could get away with it and it wasn't pretty when he got hold of too many.

We'd toyed with taking the mutant tree down, but could never quite bring ourselves to it, since it had a beautiful trunk and offered us so much shade. So this spring, after seeing the results when my friend next door hired some simple tree trimming work, I started calling around. The first guy came and choked me with a costly estimate, but I signed my name to it and set up a time. He blew me off repeatedly. A second guy committed too, but likewise blew me off and never called back. The third guy I rang up in desperation, a large quiet Polynesian man named Solomon, came through. His charge was even higher than the one quoted me by the first guy, but by then I was so determined to save my tree that I didn't care. Solomon showed up early one morning with a squad of people, and they spent all day long dangling in my tree and sitting on my wall, working, laughing, eating, jawing, sawing, cutting, and unhurriedly dropping limb after limb after limb until my backyard and the neighbors' too were waist-deep in debris. I hoped the plum tree understood the necessity of what was happening. It was a hard operation to watch even from inside the house, so mostly I didn't.

When they were finished, I waited till they'd completely cleaned up and hauled away the wreckage to go outside and inspect. I waited till I was sure the jolly squad wasn't coming back. When the silence finally felt permanent, I slipped out into the backyard to speak to our tree. It was quite a shock to see it after the treatment. Lots and lots of empty space. Suckers gone. Limbs gone. Vanished even was the big limb where I'd planned to hang a feeder and a bath for the birds, right outside my office window. So much was cut away and it seemed that very little shade was left; the sunshine moved freely through the tree.

"This tree hasn't been topped or trimmed in at least 60 years, or maybe ever," an expert told us. We figure the person who built our house planted this tree at the same time, and enjoyed its fruit for a while, but then never troubled about its care. The fruit grew useless over time, and the tree unruly.

That night I slipped into the backyard and climbed up the wall next to the tree and perched there with my arms around it, watching a full moon through its remaining branches. I don't remember if I apologized, but I'm sure I talked to the tree. I know what you're thinking: crazy tree-hugger. Tell me, what's the strangest thing you've hugged, hm?

This morning there in the dark bedroom when Rob offered me the first fruit from our tree, I was surprised when I popped it into my mouth and bit down into fleshy, juicy, lovely sweetness. It was petite, certainly, but nothing like the tiny bird-fruit that's been littering our patio and lawn by the thousands summer after summer. What a surprise!

And what good timing for a symbol of renewal. I needed that plum today. I was going to write about more than tree-trimming and fruit-bearing, but the plum-talk's taken me so long to get through that it's time now for me to quit writing and have breakfast and a day. I will tell you one thing though, and come back to the other stories later. Something in my body has grown unruly too, and soon I will be undergoing some trimming myself. It seems I am a potential candidate for breast cancer. Maybe the simplest way to express it at this point is to cut and paste an email I sent out to some of our family and friends late last night. If you are family or friend (or both!) and didn't get this, you probably will soon, if I can find your email address (even Gmail isn't powerful enough to organize somebody like me—I'm something of a scattered soul).

Dear folks—

Just a short note—Rob and I would like to request your prayers, good thoughts, and your companionship in fasting with us. I went for a mammogram last week and had to go back to the hospital for more tests today, and those tests revealed a problem—I have some trouble that is going to require surgical intervention and biopsy. Order of preference:

(1) Miraculous healing, story published in the Ensign magazine, Ripley's Believe It or Not, or at least on my blog.
(2) Benign.
(3) If malignant, then an isolated occurrence which is removed in its entirety; curable.
(4) There is no four. I do not wish to have cancer, and that's pretty much that. And I don't like the pink ribbon.

Right now I am scheduled for a consultation with a surgeon on the 17th of August, which was the soonest I could be squeezed in. It's possible that my GYN will be able to pull some strings on Monday and get me in sooner, and with the doctor she trusts most: Jennifer Tittensor. (Really, can you believe that name for a breast cancer doc?) Maybe some prayers to that end would also be helpful.

If you feel you can throw your faith in with ours, that will be so wonderful. We need all the support we can get. Feel free to recruit others' faith too, if you feel that's an appropriate choice for you. (It's late and I'm rattling emails off the top of my head and I know I'm missing some important names, so please, help the senile.)

We love you,
Georgia & Rob

So, angels, I'm calling on you to share your strength and faith, whatever it may be. If I didn't love and trust you, I wouldn't ask.

Hopefully the fruit to follow this traumatic pruning will also be better and sweeter.

(P.S. This vid was recorded on my birthday last year!)

23 July 2009

Show me your life

I woke up this morning with the phrase "Show me your life" in my head. Someone unseen said it to me in a dream. The details of the dream are sketchy now at best, so I won't attempt to recount it, but those words remain, bolded, loud, and immovable—a challenge of some kind. My brain's engaged; I'm working on it. I feel a fascination coming on.

And I'm tossing it out there for your input too. What does the phrase "Show me your life" say, suggest, scream, whisper, etc. to you?

You can leave a comment here, or if you'd rather, email me at pogofig at gmail dot com. I'm really interested in your thoughts.

Love,
Sleepy Gee

22 July 2009

5:51

Becca’s daily 4:59
being 23 hours and 50 minutes early for a doctor appointment
wearing still-damp-from-the-dryer jeans while biking in the heat: personal swamp cooler
doses of vitamin D and seratonin dispensed from sunshine
laughing at myself with three jolly receptionists
afternoon cloud cover
dangerously rich chocolate peanut butter ice cream made in a Vita-Mix
hooping hooping hooping
Borges
story ideas
quiet
Bad Brad Wheeler (KRCL 90.9)
my Cait’s published again, in a book of stories about hair
Smokey the Bear bookmarks
family photos, however unflattering
cyber love notes
irresistible rhythms
hearing the blow-by-blow of Rob’s birthday date with our niece
white linen
soft lips
technology (always and forever)

Never sail back to the time



Fish & Bird
(Tom Waits/Kathleen Brennan)

They bought a round for the sailor
And they heard his tale
Of a world that was so far away
And a song that we'd never heard
A song of a little bird
That fell in love with a whale

He said, 'You cannot live in the ocean'
And she said to him
'You never can live in the sky'
But the ocean is filled with tears
And the sea turns into a mirror
There's a whale in the moon when it's clear
And a bird on the tide

Please don't cry
Let me dry your eyes

So tell me that you will wait for me
Hold me in your arms
I promise we never will part
I'll never sail back to the time
But I'll always pretend you're mine
Though I know that we both must part
You can live in my heart

Please don't cry
Let me dry your eyes

And tell me that you will wait for me
Hold me in your arms
I promise we never will part
I'll never sail back to the time
But I'll always pretend you're mine
Though I know that we both must part
You can live in my heart

21 July 2009

But seriously, who gets hula hoop cuts?



It finally arrived.

I sent for it early this year, during the time when I was discovering Kundalini yoga and ordering workout and dance DVDs in lieu of joining a gym. It was on backorder for a couple weeks—okay, I can deal with that. When it didn't arrive by the promised date, I gave it a couple more days for good measure then called the company. Still on backorder, the supplier's fault, they said. Nothing we can do, lady. You still want it?

Of course. I want it.

Meanwhile, I did my Kundalini, my Bollywood, some ballet conditioning. I started learning basic salsa again, and some hip hop. (Hey! I heard that snicker!)

Still it didn't arrive. Am I going to have to call and get my money back?

Then I got pregnant. Fatigue and nausea set in, along with wild cravings for gingersnaps, Manzanilla olives, and Café Rio chicken tortilla soup. I flopped. Then I got busy and ordered pre-natal workout DVDs. No gym for us, but movement was still a must, so I switched over to bellydance (appropriate), Pilates, and exercising with a pregnant acrobat from Cirque du Soleil.

I still wanted it, but the thought of trying to use it with a growing belly made my eyes roll. Okay, I said, I can wait for it a while longer, since obviously I must, and since I won't use it for a few more months anyhow.

Long story short, it kept on not coming and then I forgot about it. My mind was taken up by the miracle at hand, and by trying to keep a level head, in case that miracle should turn out to be short-lived like the others.

And it did. At the tail end of June I started miscarrying. Rob and I hadn't told people about this pregnancy, not even our families, hoping to avoid getting some dear-to-us hopes up only to have to dash 'em again. We hoped and prayed we'd eventually have some fantastic news to share, or that in time folks would finally figure out the secret—that I was getting too fat to blame it solely on Eliane's French Bakery.

But. That's not the way things went.

So July has largely been about big pain and a drawn-out recovery. About fat and slow and a frustrating inability to stand up straight. I really hated being forced to quit the circus.

But by golly, it—that thing I ordered months ago—finally arrived. It showed up when I least cared, when I was still deeply Lortabbed and weepy with hurt, just as we were leaving for a family wedding and visit back east that I felt more than unprepared to handle.

I pulled it from its box and hated it almost instantly—bubble gum pink and flashy gold!—is it possible that colors exist in this world that are any less "me"? I shoved it back into its box, and away we flew to upstate New York.

(It was an exhausting trip, by the way, but I am so glad I didn't stay home like my body wanted me to. It was good to spend that untimely time with Rob's clan. I love them all, boy howdy.)

(I didn't love having to be there fat and sick though.)

(My fattest ever.)

(Ugh. Vanity hurt my feelings.)

We returned home from our traveling last week. Two days ago, I pulled pink and gold parts from the box again and this time put the gaudy thing together. I gave it a half-hearted swing, but still didn't care.

Yesterday I picked it up with real intent, and what's the first thing that happened? It sliced my hands in three places. But I set it in motion. I forgave it for being pink and gold. I also forgave it for giving me ridiculous cuts.

The only time I went back on that forgiveness was for a few seconds today at lunch, when I got balsamic vinegar in the biggest cut. OW.

Today I gave it another good swing, and kept it going 'round just a little bit longer. Tomorrow, I'll keep it circling for a little longer still.

Maybe if I keep at it eventually I'll be truly ready for the circus.



Photo: Mädchen mit "Hula Hupp" Reifen
from the German Federal Archive via this page

13 July 2009

A vision of blue, a Vision in green

This morning I dreamed I was painting a large watercolor landscape, so large it almost completely covered the floor of the room I was working in. I didn't use brushes at all; I spread the color with my hands and forearms. I began with blue and put all the pigment I had onto my blank page. I moved the blue around with long sweeps, creating a deep sky with great variations in tone. I pushed the most blue out toward the edges, particularly the top right corner, making those places as intense as I could. I wished I had even more pigment to apply. I gave my painting a name even before I started working on it, something with the feel of "What I Hope For" or "What's Ahead."

I do believe it's time for more big change in my life. Time to view my future with a deep blue open sky kind of peace and promise—calm and clear.

Early this evening, I walked in the Sacred Grove—so lush and fragrant, and green. I went there once before as a girl—over thirty years ago! That first time I visited the Sacred Grove I slipped away from the group of kids I was with, found a place of solitude on the trail, and knelt and prayed alone in that wonderful quiet woods, and my heart was filled with warmth and a young but peaceful conviction. It was filled again today, only with stronger emotion and an even deeper appreciation, though I never got a similar moment just to myself. As Rob and I and a little niece and a nephew explored the paths through that unique forest together, stopping to hold snails and examine wildflowers and listen to birds and wind and swat "sacred mosquitos," I was overcome with feelings of reverence and gratitude and awe and offered a silent prayer of thanks. To think what actually happened in that place! It's mind-blowing, and yet so simply sweet. The validation of man's honest searching by loving Deity and the opening of a saving and exalting dialogue—questions answered and questions encouraged. God accessible. Heaven and earth meeting together, for the joy and success of all. Wouldn't I love to interview the granddaddy and grandmama trees of those which grow there today! It was a thrill to walk those grounds, poignant to watch some of the children in my life—beneficiaries of the blessings which rolled forth from that beautiful First Vision—run happily and, okay, noisily through those woods. Can trees smile? God certainly can, and does.

I do believe. Blue and green. The basic building blocks of existence. The beginning of answers, the beginning of questions.



11 July 2009

Notes from a refresher course in love, pt. 1

Rob and I have been with his family back east for a few days for a wedding and we'll be here (in Maine and New York) a few days longer. My mind's spilling over with feelings and thoughts, wishes and observations. It's been good to be immersed in extended family culture. There's so much to learn from these wonderful people, and so much to do with these relationships.

Here's a bit of what's bumping around in my head tonight, some random bits of realization at the end of a day of nuptial vows and backyard family frolic:

• It's easy to learn to love people. So easy.
• The sound of a stream coming through your window cuts some of the discomfort of sleeping on a hard bed.
• You can tell if it's been raining outside without looking out; just listen to the sound that passing cars' tires make on the road.
• There are many correct ways to receive guests. Among them are: bolting out your front door to greet them while screaming with joy, then snatching them from their car; also, squeezing them tightly while crying, laughing, and saying, "It's been too long!" and "I'm so glad you're here!" and "Oh, I love you."
• A pretty shade of pink toenail polish can actually be a real pleasure to wear, even on the most cynical feet.
• Ironing is worth it.
• So is dancing in the cold brook in your nice clothes, and persuading the new bride (with her stinky cigar) and others to join you.
• Humidity = the illusion of more hair.
• Cheer loudly for your own in a rubber ducky race.
• He's still the man you fell deeply in love with, only better.
• Leave the recorder on.
• Forget shyness, and forget false modesty; never turn away a chance to say yes to joy.
• We're all on a journey.
• Keep a healthy playlist of great dance tunes on your iPod so you'll always be ready for a party.
• Take photos when you can, but more importantly, be part of the picture.
• When somebody dips you, relax your body and enjoy it.
• Read out loud to others.
• You're doing something very important when you help a parent with a child.
• Shake it. It's not likely you'll break it.
• Pitch in and help get the work done.
• There's really nothing sweeter than the love and friendship of family.
• Everybody's scared.
• Give people a chance to talk.
• When wine glasses get broken, help clean up the shards even if you're not drinking yourself.
• You'll never wear all those shoes so don't pack them.
• Traveling with only carry-on bags speeds up the process and is cheaper too.
• Look for something you genuinely appreciate in another person, and then express it.
• Be open to suggestions.
• Let people love you.